Monday, December 8, 2008

It's a GIRL!



Wow, what a day!

Pretty safe to say that it’s not everyday that you wake up thousands of kms from home, have a breakfast buffet that you can only positively identify half of the items, spend the morning taking a leisurely stroll through a beautiful urban park, and at 2:00 pm…HAVE A BABY!

Lesley, Mara, and I are very pleased to announce that Lyla Xia Ying has joined our family.

What an experience. So we get to the hotel lobby a little early. We had noticed a number of other families gathering into a couple of different groups and wondered who would be joining us. We then meet a wonderful family from California just before we board the van that takes us to the Adoption Affairs office here in Nanjing. As it turns out, all of the families from our hotel, and more, had gathered at the office at the same time. I am not exactly sure how many, but around 10 families, mostly Americans, but at least one family from BC. The scene was pretty much chaos. The children were all waiting in the office with a person or two from their respective orphanages. The office was one large room, with a small room off to the sided - used to take our family pictures. We walked in the door and they handed us our little Xia pretty much right away…and she absolutely balled…no I mean she was literally heaving and sobbing. A really difficult transition for this little 16 month old. Our hearts broke for her as it was clear that she was quite afraid.

Meanwhile, all around us families are being united with their beautiful children and the tears are flying. Lots of wailing. Some playing. The children that were adopted today ranged in age from 6 months to 3 years old and they were all so beautiful. Crying children really tend to set one another off in what is a game of wailing-tag. After about 30-40 minutes Lyla had pretty much cried herself out (we were really trying to console her – not really much we could do) and she settled into Lesley’s shoulder and fell asleep. We were able to transfer her to daddy for a little snuggle and she was quite content to dig in and fall asleep again. Paperwork, paperwork, paperwork. Some Q&A’s for the orphanage representative. Then we have our family picture taken and Lyla was not happy about having to pose for this picture (see picture below!) We gathered our things and headed out to the van. We planned a quick stop at the bank to convert our Travelers cheques or US cash to Chinese RMB and then a quick stop at the local WalMart for some stuff. Best laid plans…after an hour and a half in line at the bank, and then signing all of my travelers cheques in front of the teller – she notifies me that she can’t exchange the full amount - as I have exceeded my daily limit, unless of course I have this “purchase receipt” that I clearly do not have - UGH! Thankfully I have enough RMB for what is needed tomorrow – hopefully I will be able to cash the signed, unused cheques tomorrow! The bank takes too long but thankfully Lesley and Lyla are playing and bonding away in the van – Lyla is having fun with Cheerios and is getting to know her Momma…Walmart will have to wait until tomorrow. We head back to the hotel to figure out some dinner arrangements. After some getting use to the hotel room, ok - indifference is more accurate - Lyla fell asleep and we were reluctant to wake her to go out - so I go on the hunt for Congee (sp?) and some Burger King (yes I admit it – it’s in the lobby of our hotel – first time I swear!). Lyla and momma are definitely bonding and Lyla has become quite shy with daddy. This is all to be expected and we acknowledge that the sleep we have had over the last few days will probably come in handy. Lyla eats pretty well, and struggles through her first L&L tag team diaper change, but we finally managed to get the outer layer of clothing (this super cute yellow suit) off which is really challenging as she won’t let us put her down. God this is hard for the little ones - what a big change, with almost zero warning – we really feel for her. A boatload of patience is just what the doctor ordered, as this will be a challenging couple of days.


She is beautiful, attentive, curious, shy with new faces, and has a good set of lungs. Lyla has fine facial features, is of good weight (about 20-ish lbs), has a full head of hair that was recently cut, and she apparently walks. So much to discover…so very happy.

We are a very fortunate family. We are so grateful for the support of our friends and family – it means everything to us.

Mara - momma and daddy miss you more than you will every know and we can’t wait to get home with Lyla so that she can join our forever family – we love you with all our hearts. 10 more sleeps until we are home…and 17 more sleeps until Santa comes.

Love to everyone…goodnight!

Lee, Lesley, and Lyla

15 comments:

Grignons said...

Thanks for sharing guys. It is great to hear that you were united with Lyla and that things are starting to settle. What an amazing experience. We are just sitting here at breakfast with Grady introducing him (electronically) to his new little buddy.

Can't wait for you to be home.

Love,
Andie, Kev and Grayden

Laurence said...

"It's a Granddaughter!"
We've been checking your blog a zillion times this morning. Finally - there you are. 200 Rideau is awash in tears - it's a rubber boot zone, we are so happy for you. Congratulations and keep every little detail coming.
love
Poppa L and Nanny C.

regionsauvage said...

Lyla is behaving so much like Coralie did - good eater, does not want to be put down, hates posing for the camera...do you guys have a snuggly? Make sure you get advil for your lower back pains. Lying down flat on my back on the floor felt good.

I showed Lyla to Coralie and she was asking why Lyla was crying. She knows all about babies crying because they don't know their maman and papa yet, she loves to hear that story again and again though.

Margo, Bill, Liam, and Ella said...

This post is making me cry at work. I am so thrilled for you. CONGRATULATIONS.

GratitudeGirl said...

Al and I were both shaking and teary as we read this beautiful post! Congratulations guys! She is sooooooo sweet - it is fantastic to see her with you!

We are thrilled for you!

Love all of us Whitewolfs.
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

Unknown said...

Oh, she's so sweet - poor little thing. She looks so mad in your family portrait! I'm glad she's warming up to you - oh, I can't wait to meet her.

This is so great - I'm so happy you're sharing this with all of us.

Say 你好 (nihao) to her for me. Her cousin is 认识她很高兴 (renshi ta hen gaoxing)!

Lots of love,
Anna

PS Mara, are you excited? When Mummy and Daddy come home with Lyla, it's going to be super busy! And then it will be Christmas! I can't wait - can you? Hugs and kisses!

Jennifer said...

Yippee!!!! I am so excited for you guys. Such wonderful news. Lyla is beautiful and you are so blessed. Safe travels.

Jennifer

Stephie Mac said...

You left me with a wonderful and warm feeling in my heart and tears in my eyes.

What an incredibly beautiful blessing.

Much love to all of you.
Steph

Norma and Tom said...

Yay!!! Tears here too!! She is beautiful, and healthy!! What you describe reminds me so much of Kira, at 18 months, and even Aurora at 27 months! Yes, lots of TLC and patience will help smooth her way into her new family!! You guys will do absolutely fine!
thanks for sharing!!
Norma, Tom, Kira and Aurora

Kohji and Tamara said...

Hey guys:

A heartfelt congratulations to all four of you, with very special thoughts as you settle in together over the next couple of weeks. Hopefully the time will go by unevenfully and quickly. Thinking of you all lots.

Tamara, Kohji and Kiyomi

Amy said...

HI Les, Lee and Lyla

We have been thinking of you all day. Such a big day and such big emotions all round! We hope that Lyla gets comfortable quickly and look forward to seeing you at home!

Amy, Dave and Molly

laura said...

lesley and lee,

oh she is so sweet....bless her little heart....i hope she is feeling a little more settled after a bit of a sleep....

what a lucky family we are to have another child come into our lives we have been teary all day with excitement....two daughters....it is such a wonder to watch them grow together....take our word for it!!

we can't wait to follow more postings and we can't wait to finally have lyla with us...

love to your family from ours,
laura and glenn
xxxxxxoooooooo

ps. hey mara....welcome to the club of having a sister...it is the most wonderful thing!!! auntie laura xxx

Unknown said...

Congratulations you guys! You're going to have to bring the fam by the (old) office one day! I'm sure everyone would love to meet the newest member! Be safe!

Eric

regionsauvage said...

I'm dying to have more news here...how's Lyla? How did she sleep her first night with you?

laura said...

Hey auntie lesley, uncle lee and now lyla <3 this week has been long and cold without you guys and mara buggy this weekend me, harleigh, sammie and our friend serina from out west hung out at your house and played wii and just hung out it was really fun the cat loved cuddling with all 4 of us in the big bed :) i really miss u guys and mara it feels so weird not seing her playing in the snow across the street but when she comes home soon we'll play in the tall snow in the back :) i'm so happy to see lyla and can't wait for you guys to come home SOON! <3 love sophie xoxox
ps. xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxooxxoxoxoxoxooxoxoxoxoxxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
pps. when you guys get ready for the cold :) i'm counting down just 8 more days